make the most of your 4000 weeks – action step one

Antidote to: Nurse reveals the top 5 regrets people make on their deathbed 

Action Step One – I have the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expect of me.

There’s a great saying from James Dean and he said, “Dream as if you’ll live forever and live as if you’ll die today.”

Do you still dream?  I’m sure most of us still dream, but maybe as children, we had the dreaming knocked out of us a little bit.  Maybe when we said we wanted to be an astronaut or fly to the moon we were told, “don’t be stupid”.  A negative statement like that is often then associated with any dreams we subsequently have and some of us have become ‘conditioned’ not to dream, not to get any BIG ideas. 

Despite possible negative conditioning that you may have been subject to I would like you to write all of your dreams down.  I would like you to create your BIG dream list.  When you make your list I want you to be absolutely outrageous!  I don’t want any logic to come into your thoughts.

If you want to be a helicopter pilot, I don’t want you thinking “how will my mother climb up the step and who’s going to look after the kids while I’m flying around?”  Just write down what you want.  Don’t think about whether you can afford it or how you are going to get the money.

Your dream list is the sort of list that you make in your mind, for example, if you play the lottery.  You know, with the lottery there’s only a fourteen million to one chance of actually winning anything, but some of us still play it and they say, “you’ve got to be in it to win it!”  But what are the thoughts that you would have if you had won the lottery?  Have you ever sat down with friends in the evening over a glass of wine and said, “when I win that lottery, I’m going to buy my dad a new car and my mum a new house?” Those are the type of things that actually go on your dream list.

Go for it, grab your journal and write down all the things that you would like to have, see, do, experience, buy, give or share. 

To help you, here are some examples of dreams that have cropped up in goal getting workshops that I have facilitated. 

·              Getting to the top of your compensation plan

·              Be a confident public speaker

·              Climb Mount Kilimanjaro

·              Cycle the UK, coast to coast

·              Explore America by car or bike

·              Explore Australia, New Zealand

·              Fly in a hot air balloon

·              Go on a cruise

·              Have a holiday home by the sea

·              Keep fit and healthy

·              Learn to fly a plane or to paraglide

·              Learn to kite surf

·              Play a musical instrument

·              Learn to SCUBA dive or to ski

·              Do a tandem skydive

·              Own a dream home overseas

·              Build your own house

·              Own a property portfolio

·              Own my dream car

·              Receive a residual income of at least ten thousand pounds per month

·              Speak a second language

·              Work for or donate to a charity

·              Write a book 

Hopefully, these will give you a few ideas.   

Practical tips: Start and brand new page in your journal or with a clean sheet of paper.  This should be hand written list because the act of writing and making contact with the paper using a pen is far more stimulating than tippy tapping on a keyboard.  Leave a margin to both the left and the right hand side of your dream list. When you have completed your dream list date each item in the left margin with the date when you wrote your dream.  Then think about how important each dream is to you and rank your dreams in order of importance and urgency to you.  For example 1 = I will achieve within one year, 3 = I will achieve within 3 years, 5 = I will achieve within 5 years, 10 = I will achieve within 10 years.  Write this number in the right hand margin.  I recommend that you continuously add to your dream list as you think of new fab things you would like to have, see or do. 

If you need any more incentive to make your list just think about this.  When you go shopping do you write a shopping list?  If you answered “yes” why do you do that?  You write a list so that you don’t forget.  Have you written your dream list?  What are the consequences of when you go shopping maybe forgetting the teabags?  Is it the end of the world?  But what if you are lying on your deathbed and you’ve not actually done some of the things that you would have liked to have done with your life because you forgot?  

You use lists every day, shopping lists, to-do lists you are good at writing lists, but sometimes we get our priorities wrong, so I would encourage you to write your dream list, keep it with you and keep adding to it. 

I mentioned earlier about the lottery and that there was a fourteen million to one chance of winning the lottery.  I’m sure you’ve heard the stories, such as there’s more chance of getting struck by lightning twice than winning the lottery!  Think about this; you either will achieve the dreams that you write on your list, or you won’t.  Now to me, that sounds like odds of 50/50.  You either will or you won’t.  Do you prefer the odds of 50/50 to 14,000,000 to 1? 

Your time is limited; don’t waste it living someone else’s life.  Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living the result of other people’s thinking.  Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition, they somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” – Steve Jobs



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